Can Long-distance Relationships Really Work?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and six months. We started dating during my senior year of high school, and we went to the same college together last year. However, I’m transferring schools this fall, and I leave tomorrow for my new college. I feel like the relationship is already starting to “fizzle” a little bit.. and I’m sure it’s going to be that much harder with me going away. I think I’m mostly just afraid of hurting him.. Should I just wait and see what happens?
Short answer: No. Long answer: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!
Let me tell you a personal story of mine. This guy and I started dating and he soon went out to the army and I went to school. I thought that it would be a waist of time to keep in touch with him because I figured it would not work. But he wrote me at least 3 times a week and called as often as he could. everytime he came home, we spent as much time as possible together. Wanna know what happened to us? We’re married! So I would say that long distance relationships work. It’s what you make out of it. If you two are willing to put work in you guys relationship then do it.
All you can really do is hang in there and basically see what happens. If the two of you are truely in love and want to be together, then I see no problem, but if not then eventually you will grow apart. But give it a chance and see what happens.
yOU HAVE THE ANSWERS…. need to look inside you, your hearth, what do you really want??, do you really like him???, do you love him??
Are you afraid about saing Not to others guys becasuse you have a boyfriend??
talk to him and be clear, talk to him and explain to him what do you think all about you and your relationship….
GOOD LUCK!!
Yes I would stay with him
Are you worried about him or you? What do you mean you are afraid of hurting him? But then again it depends on both of you ,,,maybe this is a test for both of you,,,My daughter never found the guy of her dreams in her own city ,,,but she found it in another state…and guess what? Their married and doing better then ever,,,so , it all depends on the two of you,,,best of luck
if you already know that it ’s fizzling out then let it go i think in some cases the long distance relationships can work they say absents makes the heart grow fonder.
Sure. Just wait and see what happens. However, experience tells me you will both move on. You are too young to tie yourself down to an idea of companionship. Going to a new college means new opportunities to meet and mix with people. Undoubtedly, someone new will catch your eye.
Keep in touch with your b/f; but be open to the new options that will present themselves. Don’t lie to your b/f, just discuss the new things that are happening in your life that are exciting. You need not rub anything in his face. Things are already “fizzling” so it is only a matter of distance and time before you both get the idea that you only have lovely memories in common.
Enjoy your young life!
Long distance relationships can work but they are far more difficult. In fact, I know a husband & wife that are having to do this at the moment.
It sounds to me though, that you are growing & changing (as you should) realizing that the relationship is fizzling. I’m sure there will be some hurt feelings, as with any breakup, but sometimes it’s enevitable.
It’s your call, though how you want to do this. You could wait to “see what happens” if you both were determined to make this relationship work. Or you could be merciful and get it over now.
They always say that the heart grown fonder when apart. I think that you transfering to a different college can be both good and bad. Good, because it gives you two time apart so you can really know what you have. And bad b/c who knows what will happen. But please don’t start thinking badly about this, only have positive thoughts, it will make it only better.
I would just wait and see what happens. Communication is key in any good relationship.
If it’s meant to be it’s meant to be.
It depends on the foundation you laid. Both of you must work hard to sustain it. If your guy is truely in love with you he will be there for you. Long relationships do work. If you are not in love with him ask for hs opinion
I had similar situation… we dated in high school, then i went off to college. we were together for about a year after that, and then we broke off.
So i can say the lond-distance can work– as long as the time of sepataion is not long.
i don’t think so cause i was only 25 minutes away and she wasn’t faithful just beak it off still be good friends cause you never know what’s comming at you in your new journey
No, unless you’re willing to relocate.
I think it can work, but you will need alot of love, trust, and patience to get through it. If you are already having second thoughts then you may not get to far, good luck.
To be honest it’s not going to work. Unless you spend every other weekend together or if it is really love there it would work out
wel if u really like him try to make tings work first. maybe go to the movies or sumtin. long distance relationships can work but only if u make evry effort to c each other and stay in contact alot
some relationships don’t work when you live in the same town, so yes, a long distance relationship can work. communicate and see each other as much as possible.
it has just as much chance of working as any other relationship.
Of course they can.
I personally don’t think so mainly because when you’re in a relationship you need to spend time and be able to see each other almost on the regular. Long distance relationships aren’t for everybody. To me it’s like out of sight out of mind.
Well he’s a guy in college and your not going to see him much anymore….. You can try but i doubt its gonna work… Whats gonna happen is your gonna switch and he’s gonna see all the girls around him…. then he’ll get lonely and decide to ask one if she wants to hang out…. they’ll get to drinking and either get drunk then ****…. or just decide to ****….Now how long this takes is what you gotta worry about!!!!
no if you guys love eachother and you guys will try to work something out
it never to late.good luck
be patient.. It’s hard to have long distance relationships but it really posibly works…
Communication and trust are the main points in LDR..
Get it over with. Don’t prolong and entertain the idea that this relationship is going to work. The only way to work is if both of you have the same ideas about the future. And by you going to another school away from him, then you don’t. If you are leaving for a better opportunity, that is good. There will be other men where you will be, and he will also find someone. but if you don’t want that to happen because you want him for yourself or the other way around then that is being selfish. The question will always be there, what if? Don’t stress over one guy. Both of you should know and be mature to understand that love is not forever. Your relationship has already ended.
If you truly love him you should stay with him